Random happenings...

Yet again those tiny little side conversations rear their ugly heads and remind me of what I am not able to attain.  Not to mention, followed by remarks that are really not funny and downright rude--"What is he shooting blanks?"  "No swimmers in the tank?" but of course I serve it up with, it's not his issue, "it's mine".  Then it goes on to the somber look with an apologetic remark!   When really, they should be climbing back into the hole they crawled out of!  I don't understand why people think it's okay to trot all over this topic and then prance backward when the response proves to be uncomfortable.  So, my advice to others is simple--"Don't go there if you're not prepared to receive an honest answer!"

I have over time danced around the topic, even backed away from it but lately, my tune is changing and I'm more confident than ever to simply stare the person down and tell them the truth.  It's my truth and I'm not afraid to say it, share it and shut them up.  After all, they wanted to go there so why not complete the ride for them.  I look at it this way, it minimizes the next time they feel the urge to ask such a personal question, right?!  It also affords me the opportunity to educate the ignorant and walk in stride with others that are experiencing the same struggle.  I am not ashamed nor will I ever be...I will admit that I am at times frustrated, disheartened by it but never feeling any less of a woman!

While we begin our summer of family gatherings and conversations abuzz, I will not back down from responding to the ignorant.  I challenge others in partaking the same stance and educating those that are unaware of infertility and its causes.  You never know who may be in your midst and what opportunities may present themselves.  So, onward and upward is the only way to go!